This is the fourth in a six-part series giving a brief overview of How to Become an Emotional Detective.
When exploring your inner world, most of what you are searching for has previously passed beneath the radar of your awareness. The so-called crimes you are investigating are ongoing: you, your life, your feelings and perspective are constantly changing. You probably trick yourself about how you feel from time to time. Furthermore, you likely believe things about yourself and your life that are not really true. These conditions make the job of an Emotional Detective challenging, but by no means impossible. Recognizing these obstacles helps you do the job more effectively.
While it is humbling to be aware of your uncertainty, it is also empowering. Awareness of uncertainty makes it easier to learn more. An open mind prepares you for surprises, helping you make new discoveries about yourself and others. All this helps you identify longstanding misconceptions about yourself that have gotten in your way, without your even knowing it.
When investigating your inner life, you can only know what you know now; there will always be more you don't yet know. This is true for us all.
So how to proceed with your investigation of your inner world?
- Keep in mind that there is a lot about your emotional life that you don’t know
- Collect data about yourself: monitor your dreams and intense or unusual emotional reactions
- Listen and consider what others say about you, but consider the source
- Stand behind your intuitions about yourself, but be willing to reconsider them
Remember that you could always be wrong about what you believe about yourself.