Honoring all three of your inner aspects helps you get a better grip on your life. I know it takes time and energy. But nurturing your primitive, social, and reasonable aspects makes you stronger and more complete in the long run.
Otherwise it can feel like you are coming undone.
- Which aspect do you tend to overlook?
- Try making small changes
- Strengthen your weaknesses instead of focusing on your strengths
- Address your overlooked needs
- Study those who nurture themselves well
Learn how others support themselves in ways you can’t yet.
Our capacity to grow is phenomenal – at any point new brain maps can start forming.
Attention is the key to new learning. Choose where to focus your energy with care. Shifting your focus affects your decisions. It creates new experiences to initiate growth.
Put aside time for something new: ride a bike, play an instrument, join a club, learn a language, take a class, whatever - try something unfamiliar to balance you out.
Remember it’s not always your Reason that chooses. Your body houses three aspects, all of which have a say in what you do. To make specific changes, Reason must pay careful attention and make plans to fight against other entrenched inclinations.
So, if you typically neglect your primitive needs, try tending to them more often. Make time for a bath, nature, or exercise - just as you would for any other need. Make room for more primitive feelings in your mind. Expect them, look for them. Focus on your neglected primitive needs. When torn between two options, try choosing your primitive needs for a change.
The same logic applies to whatever aspect you mostly overlook.
We all struggle with inner turmoil. Get to know your neglected needs and start tending them. Try resolving your conflicts in a new way - and see what happens.