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Claudia Liliana/rasamalai

I had no idea about those books or author but I feel very intrigued by them and I'm looking forward to find anything about her available online!


i cried and cried at that movie. i think claire danes did an amazing job. it is so special that we all think in different ways. it would be such a relief if we could understand ourselves well enough to understand each other better. what a wonderful world it would be (not that the world isn't wonderful, but IMAGINE!)

i've investigated tour dates for Next to Normal... it is coming to a theater near me. yip!


I admire Temple Grandin a lot. There is so much to learn from her. I read her book Emergence: Labeled Autistic. But I haven't read Animals in Translation. Thanks a lot for the recommendation. I will definitely get it. I saw the movie about her and it was great. The movie got a Golden Globe. Seeing Temple at the ceremony wearing her usual cowboy "uniform" was wonderful. She's unique :)

Dr. Meyer

The dilemma you speak of is one with which we all struggle: How much shall we try to pass for "normal"? In the case of your son, clearly it is to his advantage to learn basic social rules. This will help him navigate the world to the best of his ability and minimize his future distress. By teaching him social rules you are increasing his ability to function effectively in the world and helping him avoid unkind reactions to his differences. As you already know, both of these will help him be happier and like himself better.

I suspect you know the work of Temple Grandin, a brilliant autistic woman who has written several fascinating books about her condition. In her book Animals in Translation she shares her perceptions of what it is like to be autistic, and how she has grappled with the many difficulties her condition presents. I loved the book because it helped me understand parts of myself and others that had previously been unclear. I was particularly taken with the notion that we all think in different ways: some with language, some with pictures, and some with patterns. Her other books are geared specifically toward parents of children with Autism or Aspergers. Good luck with your son, Diego.


I constantly think about this subject: What is normal?
I have an autistic son and a typically developed daughter
They're both very special in their own ways.

My son's therapies are oriented to teach him how to function in a "normal" world. He benefits from knowing the main social rules.
But on the other hand, there are different things that are so amazing about him being "not normal". Sometimes I feel inspired to see the world as he sees it, it's always a great experience.

I agree with you that in the end the most important thing is to acknowledge our emotions and to be in touch with them. When I think about Diego what I want the most for him is to be happy, even if he looks "not normal" to other people. I work a lot in making him aware of his own feelings. Because my intuition tells me that in the end of the day the most important thing for him will be to like himself and to enjoy life. And that is totally related to our emotional world.

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  • Dr. Meyer has worked in private practice in West Los Angeles for over 25 years, and is an Associate Clinical Professor of Psychology at UCLA. She earned her Ph.D. in Clinical Psychology from UCLA and her B.A. from Oberlin College.

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